Every dude’s goal when he uses sites to improve his sex life is to find dates and sex, avoid scams. Admit it. You know it’s true. There’s nothing wrong with it, either. There isn’t even anything wrong with using sex sites. The trick is getting the hookup without losing your wallet in the process. There are a few different kinds of dating and sex site scams you’ll find. The most common one is when a hooker has a profile just like any other woman on the site, you set up a date, you meet her, and you find out she’s expecting a couple hundred bucks. That’s not exactly a guy’s dream date. Worse is when you set up a date with someone you think is a regular chick, except you’ve been using a scam site, and the chick you hook up with is a cop out on a sting. At least you can be honest and say you thought you were just meeting her for a date.
The better way to deal with it, though, is to not have to at all. Avoid sex and date finding site scams and still get the payoff by taking our advice.
Red Flags: Use Extreme Caution If You Can’t Just Avoid These Types of Sites
The biggest red flag indicating a dating and sex finding site scam comes up in the ads. If an ad is telling you about “HOT XXX CAM GIRLS WAITING FOR YOU”, it’s a pretty good indicator that the site’s a scam. A legitimate site would link to other legitimate sites; they wouldn’t link to sex workers. Not that we have anything against sex workers, especially not the lovely ladies at the Tabbi Kat strip club! We just know that sites that are trying to hook people up in meat space aren’t going to also send visitors off to spend money on getting a show through a camera. The legitimate sites are all about finding us someone to do a real bump-and-grind with. For example, you can read about xdating.com and
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Another scam red flag is when a lot of the babes’ profiles read like they were written by a computer, the same person, or professionals. Sure, people start getting decent at writing their own profiles after a while and know how to get other users’ attention—it’s what gets them play in meat space—but legitimate profiles don’t read like they were written by Don Draper. They also don’t read like physical asset Mad Libs. If you’re on a site specifically for sex hookups, you’re going to see a lot of “my firm DDs” and all that, but it’s when you see things like “hot for YOU” that you hit a red flag. She doesn’t know you. She doesn’t know anything about you. “Hot for YOU” is a pro way to make dudes feel special and reel you in. It’s also what lands you in a motel room, your pants around your ankles, while she reels off a price list. It’s not a pretty picture. Avoid it if you can.
Yellow Blinkers: Proceed with Caution, but You Might Be Safe
Some sites are up in the air. You might not have that “hot for YOU” red flag waving in your face, but you could still come across some indicators on a site that otherwise seems legitimate that mean you should be careful. It’s entirely possible that a site with dating and sex-finding scams could have a few legitimate uses. You just need to watch your step and make sure you don’t give out your credit card information, but that’s good advice for most places on the internet.
If you’re browsing a site for sex opportunities and come across an ad in which a babe says that she has no limits or she’ll do what you want, you could either have someone very kinky and with no self-esteem, you could have a hooker, or you could have a cop setting up a sting. Either way, it’s a good sign to watch your step.
Craigslist is actually a good example of this. Its “casual encounters” section is full of legitimate ads and then, every so often, a hooker or police sting crops up. Pay attention to the types of pictures used, the language she chooses (if it’s anything like, “I’ll play on your terms,” then you need to get far away from her ad), and how she describes herself. Most non-hooker women aren’t going to describe themselves as porn stars. They’re going to talk about how they’re tired from a long day of waiting tables and want a no-strings-attached way to unwind. Those are exactly the ads you should go for: when she’s blunt about what she wants, when she provides a decent description and photos, and when she doesn’t talk about herself the way someone would in a porno.
Blue Skies and Green Lights: Go All the Way
There are, fortunately, sites that are perfectly decent out there. They might not be free, but that means you’re that much less likely to come across a sting or a hooker; they can’t justify paying for a membership that might not pay off. There are good sites out there if you just do some hunting. You can find ones with weekly or monthly memberships, and some offer a one-day trial. You can see plenty of legitimate ads then. These kinds of sites are ones where you find things like, “Just got out of a crazy day at the office and I need something to help me sleep,” and she’ll probably pair it with something like a shot of her legs in stockings and her heels on the floor by her feet.
They won’t all be that classy, of course. That depends on the site you use and where you live, not to mention the days you happen to be on. Many of these sites wipe ads after two or three days to protect members from harassment. That also depends on the site you use; a factor in that is how much you’re willing to pay. It can be worth it to pony up for the more expensive sites, though. Not only do you get things like the office worker and her stockings and heels, but you also get the option of browsing for people who are only looking for a hookup, who are looking for a date, or who are looking for either. You can narrow down your pool to exactly what you’re interested in—say, that office worker with the stockings and heels, but you also might come across a professor looking for a date to a faculty function who’s willing to go along with a made-up history to make it look like she has more of a social life than she really does. You might get laid, you might get a date, or you could even somehow find yourself with a full-blown relationship.
Date-finding and sex sites are fun and awesome, and we’re huge proponents of them. We’re just also advocates of being careful of where you look and who you contact; you don’t want to explain to a cop that you misunderstood. It’s much better to end up with Sandy the waitress in a motel for the night.